tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post8750520107363809607..comments2023-06-04T07:52:50.111-06:00Comments on To Make Love Stay: On Being GroundedCaitlinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12624818442174838361noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-73254032145814750332011-10-18T17:10:55.787-06:002011-10-18T17:10:55.787-06:00Gaaaaaaaaah, my internet keeps going in & out ...Gaaaaaaaaah, my internet keeps going in & out on me and I just lost my comment. It pretty much said this:<br /><br />I just stumbled upon your blog & I'm so glad that I did. It's so nice to know that other people go through these things & it's awesome to see how they deal with it. When I'm having a panic attack it's soooooooo tough to bring myself back down to earth. Dealing with depersonalization and derealization is SO scary. <br /><br />These tips that you shared will definitely help me. Thanks!Holly Knitlightlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01403267201087602217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-44341719056410226502011-10-05T14:19:28.871-06:002011-10-05T14:19:28.871-06:00It takes a lot of strength and will to help yourse...It takes a lot of strength and will to help yourself get better mentally - I know this from experience. These are great techniques - thanks for sharing!<br /><br />xo<br />cortnietinyparticlesoflighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11563311777319327489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-44682475284310317282011-10-03T11:39:02.709-06:002011-10-03T11:39:02.709-06:00Very interesting and helpful post. I love that yo...Very interesting and helpful post. I love that you share these parts of yourself with the internet world. It's very brave and helpful to others. xoxogahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13829631326663611476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-70940582866108858552011-10-01T20:32:00.820-06:002011-10-01T20:32:00.820-06:00I appreciate you sharing this!I appreciate you sharing this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-57125313948997664912011-09-28T07:09:39.989-06:002011-09-28T07:09:39.989-06:00thanks for sharing this! being brave enough to sh...thanks for sharing this! being brave enough to share these things about yourself in order to help someone else is an amazing thing. these grounding techniques are great reminders!Roots and Feathershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11749205578208874880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-70571205465982381052011-09-27T16:35:52.353-06:002011-09-27T16:35:52.353-06:00This was truly an interesting read! I am quite fas...This was truly an interesting read! I am quite fascinated by the mind and how it copes with issues such as stress... I've also always been fascinated by better techniques of arguing, but that's another story.<br /><br />I love this guide for engaging with the situation, and I hope they continue helping you in yours! Also... I pick my lips too, lol :(<br /><br />Aya ♥ <a href="http://strawberrykoi.com/" rel="nofollow">Strawberry Koi</a>Aya Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11400079076068141263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-6630453188987515412011-09-27T05:35:36.313-06:002011-09-27T05:35:36.313-06:00i don't go into that state when i'm stress...i don't go into that state when i'm stressed out, but my mind is known to go numb when i have a free second just to myself. so maybe that is my body trying to just de-stress itself? either way, i'm glad that you got some answers!deanna@delirious-rhapsodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11510367852834677697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-91256885133440046152011-09-27T00:28:23.024-06:002011-09-27T00:28:23.024-06:00At least you know how to respond now! Thank goodn...At least you know how to respond now! Thank goodness for that.ladaisihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05348955254558187266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-9585525104238456712011-09-26T22:23:03.127-06:002011-09-26T22:23:03.127-06:00I did this for a period of about a year after my d...I did this for a period of about a year after my daughter was born still in July 2004. I could hear others talking to me but I could not look at them or respond. I used to call it 'getting stuck'. It would last for several seconds at a time. I didn't really do anything to remedy it, it eventually went away on its own. <br /><br />I agree that you are incredibly helpful to put this out there! I wish I'd known back then what was going on, this could really help someone out!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-77827846099625988702011-09-26T22:22:46.997-06:002011-09-26T22:22:46.997-06:00My wife and I both have various mental illnesses. ...My wife and I both have various mental illnesses. Jen, my wife, has BiPolar Depression, anxiety, social anxiety and separation anxiety from me. I have severe OCD, mild depression, anxiety and severe separation anxiety from Jen. <br /><br />When I'm having a severe OCD panic attack (which could range from something horrible happening, albeit unrealistically, such as someone shooting through our bedroom wall (for no reason... and we're in a safe neighborhood) to a sink hole opening up...) I try and do what our care manager taught us. Mentally I say "I do not acknowledge this thought." Silly, maybe, but it's helped.<br /><br />I also try to focus on something else. I plan a redesign for our bedroom, work on a story within my mind, etc. <br /><br />I love the lists you've posted and I think they will help both Jen and I.<br /><br />Lately, I've been getting panic attacks which are so bad I feel as if I'm going to pass out. These have happened while I was walking around the neighborhood and while I've been in the shower, mostly. I'm not sure why. When I was walking, I just had to power through and get home. When I was in the shower, I got out and laid on the bathroom floor with a cool rag on my face. I breathed in the cool air and let the temperature change calm me. <br /><br />I also often get hives for no real reason, though I think it's linked with stress... I don't know.<br /><br />Again - though - thank you for this!Sailor Julyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18201797370322000117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-41750077154383401162011-09-26T21:33:32.548-06:002011-09-26T21:33:32.548-06:00It's so brave and amazing for you to share thi...It's so brave and amazing for you to share this to help others that might have similar problems :) Keep up the good work with the therapist! I saw one for years and little by little it helped me regain control of my life after some fairly traumatic experiences. <br /><br />On side note: tried your gorgonzola tomatos tonight and they really are to die for! My 100% carnivore boyfriend even admitted to loving them!<br /><br /><a href="http://sweetrelease-annika.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow"><br />A Sweet Release</a>Annikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04080402138594685966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-33369635852419026982011-09-26T21:01:44.896-06:002011-09-26T21:01:44.896-06:00I can't figure out if I do THIS or if I really...I can't figure out if I do THIS or if I really daydream. I'll have to look more into it... Thanks for sharing though & I'm glad to hear that these techniques are working for you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-51389382041937299832011-09-26T20:34:36.070-06:002011-09-26T20:34:36.070-06:00i do this too, and until i read this post, i had n...i do this too, and until i read this post, i had no idea what it was called or that anyone would even understand it! my trigger is food, and i usually try to talk about what i'm feeling with my boyfriend...but after reading this i'm realizing that maybe i should stay more neutral, like guidelines 5 & 6 say. thank you for sharing this caitlin, and also for your honesty as usual. i'm definitely going to try some of these tips next time i'm feeling anxious.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-2576387055907146282011-09-26T17:29:22.277-06:002011-09-26T17:29:22.277-06:00I do the same thing right down to picking my lips ...I do the same thing right down to picking my lips & really thought I'd freakishly combined a bunch of anxious behaviors.. or lack thereof, and was all alone in my lip-picking. Wow. Caitlin this really is a hugely helpful post. Thank you.Monykahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07873537397135304047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824982487100086152.post-79950404798538605322011-09-26T17:23:46.474-06:002011-09-26T17:23:46.474-06:00Holy crap. I didn't really realize that I have...Holy crap. I didn't really realize that I have some of the same experiences at times. And I totally do the "kind statements" thing to calm me down, especially when I am having a panic attack right before bed. I think of all kinds of happy things, and basically talk to myself (either out loud or in my head) and tell myself all the good things in my life.<br /><br />I also sometimes go through worst case scenarios in my head, and explain to myself why none of them would really be that bad. Totally works. Not only am I taking the fear and mystery out of them, but I am preparing myself (at least mentally) for every possible situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com